Are You Afraid? It’s Okay to Be Afraid.
Are you afraid? It’s okay to be afraid. Even if we try hard to hide it. Sometimes we even give it names that sound more professional. We say, “I need to think about it a little more,” “It’s not the time yet,” or “Let’s wait until we have more information.” Many times, it is true. Other times, if we are honest, we have already thought about the subject ten times, and what happens is that we are afraid of making mistakes.
When you’re in charge of a team or a company, it’s hard to say. There are people waiting for a decision from you, a team that trusts you, and you feel that you should transmit security all the time. It happens to me that I can be convinced of a decision and be afraid at the same time. And that fear sometimes serves me. It makes me review a number, ask an awkward question, or listen to someone who saw a problem that escaped me.
I also realized that saying in a meeting, “This worries me,” can change the conversation. Sometimes someone tells you, “Me too, but I thought you had already taken it into account.” And only then do you start talking about what was really blocking the decision.
Sometimes the meeting ends and you take the decision home. You’re having dinner and you’re still thinking if you did well, if you missed something, what can happen to all those people who trust you if things go wrong. And how much that weighs when you feel that you also have to be confident all the time.
Does it happen to you that because you want to convey security, you end up keeping doubts to yourself that you would like to share?